You are viewing carriejones

There's a Dog Party Going On #amwriting

All the dogs are currently partying on the bed.

Okay. Two dogs are partying. One dog is sulking.


Because they are totally rocking out to the fact that Sparty (the sad dog) is about to become a character in the work-in-progress that I am writing.

They think that it is completely cool that Farty rhymes with Sparty and Fartacus rhymes with Spartacus.

Sparty thinks the white dogs are bullies and he is tired of being an objective correlative. He thinks the book should star a cat or something. He thinks wrong, poor guy. 

Boston Marathon

I first posted this on the night of the Boston Marathon, April 15, 2013, and the post was picked up by our local newspaper, the Huffington Post and a couple magazines. People asked me to be interviewed. I denied those requests. I did that because I don't think this is my story any more than anyone else's story. I did that because I didn't want any 10-seconds of fame because of what I witnessed and wrote about.

I never wrote about everything I witnessed.
I never posted all the photos I took.
I never will.

And I am glad of that.

I used to be a newspaper reporter and an editor. And there is something cold and limiting in putting down the facts of a story. The facts (when we can discern them) are important, but the truth of stories? That truth is embedded somewhere else. It is in the details, the feelings, the hearts of those involved. I sometimes thing that poems and songs come closer to the truth of people and even of terror incidents than a news story ever will.

But still, there has been a verdict. I am glad of that. I am glad that at least one chapter of the many stories that began when brothers bombed a marathon has ended.

Since the marathon, my friend, Lori, has run it again, still passionately trying to raise money for Dana Farber Cancer research. Another friend, Erin Dionne has written about being in the jury selection pool. Their stories continue, as do so many others. And some have ended.

Here is my original post:

So, I was at the Boston Marathon today to take pictures of my friend, Lori, running and then crossing the finish line. Before the marathon I had lunch with my daughter Em. She was nervous.

“I have a bad feeling,” she said. “You need to be careful.”

“You have no faith in me. I am a perfectly capable person,” I said.

“I just am worried.”

“I will be fine,” I told her.

But I did several things that I don’t normally do. I didn’t take the T. I chose to walk from Cambridge to mile 25.5 of the race route. I figured out the T route and everything, but I just didn’t want to go on it. Walking was healthier, I figured. I was going to watch a marathon.

So, I walked and set up for taking pictures. I didn’t expect to see Lori for an hour, so I hung out with some people from New Jersey, talked to some cops. I took some pictures and kept wondering if I should walk the rest of the route to get ready for when Lori crossed the finish line. It was close. Logically, I knew I should, but my gut kept me back. One of my friends called, and as we talked the first explosion went off.

“What was that?” he said.

“That was bad,” I answered. “It was an explosion. It was absolutely an explosion.”

Then the second explosion happened. And I hung up. And I looked at the cops. And the cops both lifted up their portable radios to their ears. That was not a good sign. Then they began to run towards the finish line along a parallel road. That was a worse sign, especially since one of the cops looked like he never ran.


I followed them. It smelled of smoke. It smelled of fear and confusion. Cops and medics and volunteers swarmed the area. Blood pooled on clothing and the ground. Debris was everywhere. People were crying and hysterical. The police turned me around. So, I turned around. I regret that now. I don’t know how I could have helped. I am not a trained emergency medical technician. I regret that, too. There were cops and medics everywhere. Their shiny, reflective yellow vests were like pieces of good and brave in a smoky land of pain. I wanted to tell each of them how heroic they were. There was no time for that. They were busy saving people.

So, I went back to where I had been taking pictures. Runners were wandering around still, confused, cold. They had a combination of runner’s fatigue and shock. Shivering and stunned, they were desperately trying to contact family members. Some walked in circles because they didn’t know how not to keep moving, but they also didn’t know where to go. They had spent 25 miles moving forward, towards this one destination called the finish line and now they were stuck, aimless. Their ultimate goal was suddenly gone, devastated by two bombs. Those of us who were there to watch, gave them our cell phones so they could call family members who were waiting for them. They were waiting for them right by the bombs. We gave the runners money so they could get on the T when it worked again. We gave them our coats.

“How will I give it back to you?” one runner asked as she shrugged on a dark green fleece.

“You don’t need to. You never need to,” a man next to me told her.

“I have to,” she murmured. “I have to.”

I gave away my coat. I passed around my phone.

One woman said, “Please tell me it wasn’t the subway. My kids are on the subway.”

“It wasn’t the subway,” I tell her. “It was the finish line.”

She cocked her head. “What? No? How?”

That was the question: How? We knew by then that it was probably a bomb, and the hows of making a bomb are easy, but the ‘how could you” is a harder question. How could someone kill runners and spectators? How could humans ever think it’s okay to hurt each other? How could anyone commit violence in big acts with bombs or small acts with fists.

How could we? How could humanity?

“How?” she kept saying. “How?”

And then the police moved the runners out, detouring them down another street. And then they told us, the watchers, to go. So, we left, a massive exodus towards the bridge and Massachusetts Avenue. People were still sobbing. A man on a corner was reading from on his iPhone trying to find out exactly what happened. People stood around him, strangers listening to him say the words, “explosions… injuries…”

Three girls were crying, young and scared and broken inside.

“They are so hurt. They hurt them. They are so hurt,” one girl kept repeating. We kept walking.

As I walked across the bridge, a woman on the phone sobbed to her friend, “It was so big. The explosion was so big. I dropped everything in my hands. I dropped my lens cap. I dropped my purse. I dropped it all. I called my sister. I called my friend. I called everyone. I just need to talk to someone. I feel so alone. It was awful. People were missing their legs. It was awful.”

And then she saw me, this talking woman, and I nodded at her and I grabbed her hand and squeezed it. She squeezed back. We kept walking.

A leather-jacket guy next to me was telling another guy in plaid that he had no way home. I gave him my cell. We kept walking.

I made sure that Lori’s husband and daughter were okay even though they’d been waiting right across the street from where the bomb exploded. They were. I knew Lori was okay already because I had been tracking her route. I’d never been so happy that she was running hurt and that was making her slower than normal. As I was feeling thankful, a man in front of me went down on his knees on the sidewalk. It looked like he was praying, but he was really sobbing. We all stopped walking. People pat his back. People murmured things. He stood up and we kept walking again. We walked and walked and gradually the crowd thinned, and gradually the sobs lessoned. But the sirens? The sirens grew louder and more continuous. They were forever sirens. They did not stop.

And so many people will not be able to walk ever again. And at least three people are dead. And so many people have had their hearts and bodies broken at this marathon that should be a celebration of human endurance and spirit and will.

And so many people helped others, making tourniquets out of yarn, carrying the injured, soothing the shocked, giving away their clothes to keep runners warm. And so many people have hearts of goodness. We can’t forget that. Not ever. Not today. Not in Boston. Not ever. Because that is exactly what the Boston Marathon is about: It’s about not giving up, not giving in to pain. It’s about that celebration of surviving and enduring against all odds, against everything. It’s about humanity. No bomber can take that away. Not ever.

SANTIAGO, PANAMA -- Nena has seen horrors. The wife of a member of a Santiago Rotary Club has seen it all. When we enter a Santiago hospital and I ask her if she works here, she laughs.

“No,” she tells me. “I volunteer here. I volunteer everywhere. My husband. The man with the cane? He works here.”

Nena is from Mexico originally. She knows Spanish, English, Italian and Japanese. She is a Rotarian from birth, she says. Her father was a Rotarian. Her husband is a Rotarian. She is not an official part of the Santiago Rotary Club, which is about 26 members strong. Only one of those members is a woman.  She is still a Rotarian.

“There used to be five women.” She shrugs like this change in the membership dynamics is not much of a big deal.

She spends the day showing us the projects that the Santiago Rotarian men have accomplished, but also the projects that are propelled by the wives of the club, women who spend their times unofficially helping people.

One of those places she brings us is a home for children who are malnourished. Another is a home for children whose mothers are having difficulties. Some of them are orphans. Some of them are not officially orphans. There are sisters whose father is their grandfather. There is Kimberly, 11, whose mother tried to kill her last year. Kimberly is sweet, perching on a coach, a desk, while the younger children frolic around her. She picks a multi-colored Beanie Baby bear and cradles it in her hands. She watches the Rotarians crowd in to meet her and the other children and hear how Rotary has helped them. She smiles shyly but quickly. I am instantly in love with her as she laughs as a Rotarian with spotty Spanish tries to figure out her age.

“Her mother is in prison forever,” Nena says with anger. She tells us the story of another girl, eight, who she met in a hospital. “I saw her, saw the line on her belly and said, ‘This girl is pregnant.’”

People scoffed.

But Nena persisted. “They said, ‘She hasn’t even had her first period yet.’ But I said, ‘She is.’”

They tested her and she was more than halfway through her pregnancy. Her mother couldn’t understand. It turned out that her grandfather watched her while her mother worked. Her grandfather had been raping her. He also sold her to his friends. He is in jail now.

“As far as I am concerned they should have cut off his balls,” Nena says.

Nena enters a home for children with troubles, children like Kimberly, those sisters, a little boy named Jesus, and she scoops up a baby, cradling him in her arms, cooing. She is justice and kindness. She is anger and action. She is love and grace and a million things all wrapped up in a small package of a woman that wears multiple pieces of jewelry at once.

The Bar Harbor and Ellsworth Maine Rotary Clubs and Nena visit schools and water towers that the Santiago Rotary Club has sponsored. We meet Jesus who folds his Ellsworth Blueberry Pancake Breakfast t-shirt into a precise rectangle, smiling at his colored pencils and coloring book. We meet school children who will have physical education class again simply because we have brought a few soccer balls. We meet Kimberly who smiles with love despite what her mother tried to do.

Ellsworth President David Wells hands out toys and t-shirts. Ellsworth High School student Josh Callnan who pumps up soccer balls with a pump that Dave Wheaton and Annette Higgins thought to bring. Sallie Boggs is greeted by an eight-kindergartener simultaneous hug. Shaun Farrar is surrounded by children at each school he visits. The students gaze up and up at his 6 foot 5 inch frame with wonder, giggling as he asks their names.

“They think he is a giant,” one Santiago Rotarian laughs. “He is, actually.”

In a place where malnourishment is often an issue, growing so tall is rare. The Santiago Rotarians have made combatting malnourishment a priority creating fiver or six sites at schools where they hatch and raise chickens for six weeks, three times a year. The students then eat the chickens for lunch. Their parents take turns cooking, rotating throughout the year. The chickens that are not eaten are sold to buy more at an earlier stage in their life cycle.

Nourishment helps children have stronger minds and bodies. Rotarians including former Santiago Club President Edwin Munoz dispersed 10,000 dictionaries throughout Panama to give students access to words that will give them broader, stronger futures. `

Clean water is also important. Working with a Rotarian from Texas, the club has provided multiple water tanks to both residential areas and schools. The Rotarian’s wife had died. When they were visiting Panama she had been saddened by the lack of running water in schools. School would have to be closed in the middle of the day so children could wash and get water off site.

“It was disruptive,” says their principal. “This is so much better.”

The Santiago Rotarians have even provided sewing machines to the local hospital so that workers could make hospital gowns and surgery garments for doctors and patients.
Hospital Director Doctor Rafael Andrade addressed the Rotarians and speaking both about the sewing machines and the wheelchairs that the Ellsworth and Bar Harbor Rotarians brought over said, “There is no word for this because it is something that comes from you’re heart. I hope that this visit is not your last time here.”

As the Rotarians visited the bowels of the hospital to see the industrial sewing machines, Nena said, “They have needs. The hospital – everyone – they have many needs. They want wheelchairs, too.”

Rotary and Nena and the women like her keep picking away at those needs. When the home for malnourished children needed a physical therapy room, Rotarians from Panama and the United States stepped up.

“They needed a wall for the room. We built a wall. They needed another wall for a room. They built another wall. Piece by piece is how these things happen,” Nena says.

And she’s right. It is piece by piece, volunteer by volunteer, wheelchair by wheelchair, water tower by water tower that change happens, that lives become a little bit better, that hope because reality. Change and hope, service and volunteerism are powerful things. It doesn’t matter if it’s little steps. All that matters is that it’s steps in the right direction. That direction is forward. That direction is to a better life. That direction is towards hope. #‎rotary #‎rotaryinternational

He moves like a gymnast between chair and crutches, chair and chair, swinging back and forth with the sort of athletic ease that most people can only dream of, but Gabriel Peralta, needs that graceful agility to be independent. A couple years ago, he was working on an electric pole and slipped. Another accident a short time later infected his already damaged left leg. Doctors amputated it.

He still finds hope in almost everything, he says. Life is good. He is lucky to be alive.

“I am thankful, so very happy,” he says as he swings from his new wheelchair brought by Rotarians from Bar Harbor and Ellsworth, Maine and Santiago, Panama. “I am so very happy for everything.”

All 17 members of the United States Rotarian group and the Santiago Rotarians gathered around in at Hogar Santa Isabellos, quickly ripping apart the white cardboard boxes that the wheelchairs were shipped in, lifting the wheelchairs out and assembling them as their new owners watched, waiting. The side of the big white boxes that housed the wheelchairs reads, “Opportunity. Dignity. Hope.”

People getting new hope and new dignity included 92-year-old Rogelio Urieta and Daniel, a young man without a leg and yellow eyes, who manages to wheel his new chair up a steep hill to a waiting car.

“Is this yours?” asks Shaun Farrar, a Bar Harbor Rotarian as he put Daniel’s wheelchair in the trunk, on top of a tangle of ropes and pulleys.

“Si,” Daniel says easing himself into the driver’s seat of his dented car and beaming with pride. “I drive.”

Other recipients include 99-year-old Francesca who has no legs any more. A former Rotarian friend of hers is bringing the wheelchair to Francesca because it is too difficult for Francesca to leave the house. Transportation is difficult when you have no legs, no wheelchair and you are almost 100.

“Rotarians do a good job with service above self and Francesca has the spirit of the Rotarian still,” her friend says.

The three clubs delivered 35 wheelchairs on Tuesday morning. The groups had raised funds to purchase and ship the wheelchairs. Some club members opted to learn how to fit and assemble the wheelchairs, traveling to Panama to help the Santiago Club dispersing them.

One recipient was Taqio, 42, who five years ago was working on a truck at a factory. He was loading the truck when it went backwards, hitting him and severely injuring his back. The factory built a small eleven by eleven foot dwelling on its land so that he and his family could have a place to live now that Taqio can no longer work. Seven people, sometimes nine, cram into the space that has no water and no bathrooms. They have to walk around dirt piles to use the bathroom at the factory. Aniva, Taqio’s 15-year-old son, helps load him from a thin mattress onto a new wheelchair. His old wheelchair, broken and no longer usable waits outside next to Valentine, 5, who can hardly contain his excitement at the events, bouncing up and down on his bicycle and then running around the dwelling a few times before posing for pictures.

“Gracias,” Taqio whispers to me.

One Rotarian begins to cry and walks away to the side of the house where she hopes nobody will notice. Tagqo has five children, his seventeen-year-old daughter has a baby and they live with him as does his wife and his children’s grandmother. It is a lot of people to survive on $100 every other month. It is a lot of people to live on three twin mattresses in a house smaller than many Americans’ bathrooms.

We change locations and deliver ten more in the afternoon. One of those wheelchairs is for a 24-year-old woman whose mother grew teary trying to explain how helpful it would be.

“It was too hard to carry her here,” she says to me. “It is so hard to … to all the time lift. ”

It is easy to worry as you briefly meet the people receiving the chairs, that you have that tiny moment of connection with them, the grace of being in their presence that you aren’t doing enough.

“It seems so little,” one Rotarian says. “It seems hopeless.”

Sometimes it is hard to see that helping one person’s life, even the tiniest of bits, even for the smallest of moments is worth it. Sometimes it is hard to realize that by taking a picture, by sharing someone’s story, by easy someone’s burden, you could be inciting change, motivating others to do their own tiny bits of good. And even if it isn’t? Even if those wheelchairs are just used. That’s enough. It’s enough because it makes someone else’s life better.

“Twenty four years old is too big to carry around,” the woman tells the entire group.

And sometimes it is hard to remember that even that one moment of happiness is worth it. Fatima, an 11-year-old girl in the La Mesa district smiled joyously as she wheeled her chair for the first time. Her smile was even bigger as she received not one, but three Beanie Babies. Her favorite was the chicken. She recognized it and laughed when a Rotarian made it cluck on her lap.

Fatima’s smile is a moment of optimism and happiness in a country that is known for a canal that connects the Pacific to the Atlantic, for being a melting pot of culture and connections. Smiles seem universal. Or at least almost. They connect us as much as a wheelchair ever could, they give us a moment of clarity. They make us realize what bridging cultures and ages and abilities and countries is all about.

Service isn’t about being charitable. It’s about learning and growing. It’s about trying to help with a true need and to help not because you want to make yourself feel good, but because you want to make another person feel good, to see a smile like Fatima’s and know that smile is genuine. Service is vital to Rotary and to each person in this world. We have been so lucky to be able to help even in the tiniest of ways.  #‎rotary#‎Rotaryinternational

Carlos, 13, hunkered in his father’s arms in the club house of Rotary 2030 in Panama City. His voice came out in a guttural cry as Rotarians from foreign clubs gathered around, taking pictures, making friends, and learning about Carlos’ story.

Carlos has cerebral palsy, diagnosed when he was six months old.

“He was a normal baby and then….” The Panamanian Rotarian struggled to find the words in English to describe what happened to Carlos. It didn’t matter. For over an hour, in blistering heat, Carlos’ father held him in his arms. Carlos’ mother, his sister and brother all gathered around him and then the moment arrived. He was going to be placed in a special wheelchair that so many Rotary clubs in North America worked to provide him with.

“It is… It is scary for him to do this… So many times people think these kids… That they don’t have feelings. They do,” said one of the 20-

30 members as he looked on anxiously.

Carlos went outside, held in his father’s arms as Rotarians from Panama, Canada and the United States gathered around. Pictures were taken. Water bottles handed out. Then work began. Deb Hammond of Bar Harbor, Maine and Marilyn Wells of Ellsworth, Maine began to help Carlos’ family fit him to a special wheelchair designed for children with cerebral palsy, meticulously and lovingly easing him into the seat while simultaneously adjusting the wheelchair to fit his body. Carlos withstood all the poking and prodding, the pictures, the adjustments and in the end. he was fitted into the wheelchair. Moments later, Carlos gifted his mother, Rachel, with the most beautiful smile. She pet his hand against her face, over and over again. His smile became bigger. Ariel, Carlos’ father, was no longer carrying Carlos’ weight. Instantly, his daughter catapulted herself into his arms for a hug while his younger son stood by, holding onto the edge of Carlos’ wheelchair, watching over his big brother.

“For these families, this means… it means everything,” said Roy, a Panamanian who is not affiliated with Rotary but who became an integral part of Sunday’s adventure. “All of this… it is so fortunate.”

You can call it good fortune or Rotarian luck or divine province. But Roy was a huge part of it. Roy was Linda Whitehead’s driver when she came to Panama via White Rock, British Columbia. Linda is the Global Wheelchair Program Chair and a past president of the Semiahmoo Rotary Club in Canada. Roy and Linda are both talkers, friendly, ready to pat someone on the arm, take their hand, make a connection. He asked her about why she was in Panama and she told him about the wheelchairs. He told Linda about his wife’s friend Ari and her eight-year-old Gabby. Gabby was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy when she was a year old. Ari is a 29-year-old single parent who spends most of her days carrying Gabby in her arms. When she works in the restaurant, she brings Gabby with her, placing her on a mat in the room while she makes money to support them.

“You are so strong,” I tell her and make a muscle.

“Si,” she says.

“But not just your muscles. Your heart. It is so strong.”

She smiles.

Gabby’s wheelchair came with Linda to Panama not because Linda knew about Gabby. It came because Linda brought an extra wheelchair for carry-on instead of bringing a bag full of make-up or books or clothes.

“You never know when you might need one,” she says off-handedly.

She needed that wheelchair the very next day. That carry-on wheelchair became Gabby’s wheelchair.

It isn’t easy for Ari and Gabby. Though they live only about 45 minutes outside of Panama City, getting Gabby to the rehabilitation center has proved too difficult. Not only does it cost about $5 a day in travel expenses, which is a lot here;
it meant a lot of work for Ari. Getting Gabby to the center required Ari carrying Gabby up a hill down a hill, on a bus, onto another bus. All of this was under Ari’s manpower, all of it required hours of Ari holding Gabby in her arms to take her to a rehabilitation center that sees 300 patients a day. Wheelchairs sponsored by Rotarians from around the world, wait in the halls for patients. Now Gabby will have one of her own.

“It makes things easier,” Ari says. “I am so thankful.”

Rotary Club members from Seattle, Canada, Alaska, Maine and Panama were there to watch Gabby settle into her first wheelchair, watch Ari smooth away the hair from Gabby’s face and then kiss her hand over and over again. We were there, lucky beyond words to watch the love that Ari envelopes Gabby with, to witness the love that Carlos’ family showers on him and each other. We are the thankful ones.

Members from the Bar Harbor and Ellsworth Maine Rotary Clubs will be visiting Santiago, Panama this week and distributing wheelchairs that they are providing to residents in need. The Santiago Rotary Club is graciously hosting us and helping with the project. I’ll be posting more, hopefully, as the week progresses. Please forgive me for the typos. I’ll try to fix them later. ‪#‎rotary‬ ‪#‎rotaryinternational‬

We are seated three rows ahead of our fellow Rotarians on the flight from Boston, Massachusetts, USA to Panama City, Panama, but I can still pick out Annette Higgins’ voice from the hub-bub of passengers.
            “If you need help with those forms, Susy can help you,” she tells a fellow passenger, a woman she has only met three seconds ago. “Can’t you, Susy?”
            “Absolutely!” Susy Davis’ fluid voice is instantly recognizable as well.
            Susy and Annette are two of six Rotarians (plus one spouse) from Bar Harbor, Maine’s club jetting to Panama to help fit people into wheelchairs that the club raised money to purchase.
            “Don’t worry,” Annette tells another passenger worrying over a form, “we’ll help you too if you need it.”
            Help is meant to be one of the backbones of the Rotary Club. It’s often called service, which sounds a lot fancier. Sometimes that service might be raising money for wheelchairs. Sometimes it might be assisting others fill out customs and immigration forms. But it is always supposed to be the nature of Rotary, of being a Rotarian. It is why we are here. It is why Susy spearheaded this wheelchair project for our club.
            Although, she was born in Panama, Susy has spent a good portion of her adult life in Maine. When she heard about the wheelchair project she jumped onto the effort along with two other clubs in our Rotary District. She sponsored a Princess Breakfast, a pajama photo shoot during our town's Bed Races, and all sorts of fundraising efforts.
            “I wanted to help,” she has said. “This is a great opportunity to help.”
            Susy and us fellow Rotarians are paying our own way to Panama as we head to both Panama City and Santiago to distribute the chairs that are arriving via freighter ship instead of airplane.
            I’m a worrying type of person, and I have to admit that I’m a little freaked out about whether the wheelchairs will make it, whether I’ll do a job representing Rotary, whether I’ll do anything right, actually. But back at the hotel in Boston where we had to stay over because our flight was so early and Logan Airport in Boston is so far away from our little town in Maine, another Rotarian said, “This is a big adventure.”
            It is.
            You have to embrace the adventure sometime and just give in, even if you are a worrying type of Rotarian. Life is meant to be spent adventuring, not spent hiding; sometimes it feels like the world is so full of fear that everyone forgets what it’s like to simply put one foot in front of the other and step outside their communities, their homes, their safe routines and risk being adventurous, risk experiencing the joy that happens when you take one little week out of your life to hang out, distribute wheel chairs and try to service others.
            It’s what Rotary is about. It’s the kind of Rotarian and person that I want to be and I'm totally psyched to be on this adventure.
IMG_0443 Rotariam reads on the plane.
IMG_0521No, these are not painted red, Rotarian.
IMG_0522Rotarians fuzzy, but ready to help. 

Old Rejections

Sometimes, when you're a writer trying to get an agent or a contract, you get rejected and those rejections FEEL ABSOLUTELY HUGE. Those rejections feel like ALL YOUR WORTH is wrapped up in the word, "No."

A few years ago I blogged this (Back then I also used to blog about my dog's poopy butt. I try not to do that anymore):

On a weirdly positive note, I just received the BEST rejection letter ever. Yes, I know. It makes no sense. But i sent out a novella to Penguin. They responded that it was "Beautifully, written, incredibly moving" and it's clear that I "have a great deal of talent."

So why did they reject it? Just to make me sad?
Probably, but they said it was a bit too specialized and scary for the middle grade market.


What does this mean?

Does this mean it's YA or adult even though I imagined it as middle grade? I am not smart enough to figure out who to send this to now. If only my magic cat and her great sitting abilities could tell me.

On another positive note Penguin said they'd be happy to consider future work, wished me great luck and "strongly encourage" me to submit the piece elsewhere.
Where? Where? Where?


AND obviously I felt hopeless and frantic, which was sort of a constant state of my prepublished being. But now? Now, I can't even remember who at Penguin I sent that novella to. Or why I thought someone would buy a novella? A NOVELLA?!?

My point in blogging about this? It's that rejections don't determine your worth. Sometimes they are so insignificant that the only way you do remember them is through a blog post. What determines your worth is your actions and your intent in life and work and art and relationships. At least, that's what I think. So if you are an artist or a writer or a singer or applying to colleges or jobs, try to remember that it's okay to get rejected. Just don't give up on who you are or what you want. Not ever.


So, I have seven books under contract. That is super cool and I am ridiculously lucky. I know it.

But I still feel like I'm not working hard enough. It's sort of like I spend so much time thinking, "Wow. I can't believe this is my job" and I worry that it will go away super soon because that's how everyone says publishing is.

So, instead of enjoying the fact that I have actually, miraculously:

1. Gotten books published and been paid for it
2. Have more books under contract

I waste my time worrying that I won't get to do it much longer.

This is silly, I know. I should just be grateful, I know. Somehow though, my brain refuses to just enjoy the ride. 

My tweets


My tweets